28th January, 2016
Marriages are anyway pretty awesome. The pretty bride, the food, the rituals and the glittering show of guests – all these factors make marriages a source of sheer delight. But, nothing can beat our very own and moromor Assamese weddings, right? They are, to say the least, a class apart. So, let’s get to know a few rituals revolving around an Axomiya biya which make it so elegant yet grounded.
1.AAM DALI GOTHA
In the morning of juroon, mango leaves are tied in front of every door of the house. It is tied as it absorbs the negative energy from anyone entering the house.
‘Aam dali gathisu,dorja mukhot aarisu’
A day before the marriage, all the ladies of the groom’s family come to the bride’s house and gift the bride and her mother chador mekhela and ornaments. The bride is supposed to wear the chador mekhela gifted by the groom’s family on the day of the wedding.
‘Maa rar olonkar thuwa kati kori, deuta’r olonkar thuwa aye.
Ram’e di pothaise suborno olonkar, haat’e jure kori luwa he.’
Just after the juroon, people go to any nearby river or pond and pani tule i.e. fetch holy water in a pot. They pray to the ‘jolodebota’ i.e. the god of water.
‘Phool sondon tulokhi, bhorile ne nobhoril radha tumar kolosi.’
The bride and the groom are then bathed with the holy water that their respective mothers fetch from the nearby river or pond. They are bathed with maah and halodhi.
‘Aage diya paase diya, poncho aayoti’e hei ramo ram,poncho ayoti’e.’
The father and the mother of the bride welcome their soon-to-be son-in-law. The bride’s younger sister washes the groom’s feet, as on the wedding day, the groom is believed to be the Debota.
‘Huta katu jotore, ulai aaha koina’r maayeke.
Jowai ahise motore.’
The bride’s brother lifts the groom and takes him to the wedding hall. The bride is gently carried to the wedding hall by her brother or maternal uncle. Both of them, the bride and the groom sit at the mondpp, facing the sacred fire. The bride’s father performs the konyadaan. And, during this ceremony, all the relatives and friends gathered there sing Jura Naam.
‘Baari dhapor hilikha, bhindeu tumi tilika.
Amaar baideu ukho dangor, homajot e jilika.’
7.GAMES AND FUN ACTIVITIES
After the wedding, games are played by the bride and the groom. Games are tamul-kotari holuwa, saaul’t aanguthi lukuwa and so on. It is said that the one who wins in these games actually gets to have a say after the marriage. Ha-ha!
This is the time for the bride to leave her parental home. Her parents and relatives give her a tearful farewell. She throws rice over her shoulder thrice. Ghorot lokhimi thoi aahe.
‘Haatot paan bota loi, maa deuta’k mata goi.
Jaboloi ulalu, jabore hommoyot maat he logalu.
Aaji pora maa moi amoni nokoru.’
Marriage is a beautiful affair. And, Axomiya marriage is the most beautiful of the lot. No matter how progressive we become, we, the Axomiyas, would always stay grounded to our roots, customs and rituals. And, eta secret kou? This is what actually our USP is.Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Google Plus