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9 Big Ways an Assamese Muslim Marriage is Different From Rest of India


Shaheen Rahman
Intern, Bordoisila

10th March, 2016


Axom is a land to many communities and tribes. Among all these groups of beautiful people, there is one such community that is as Axomia as any other tribe and as Gaoliya as any other Axomia. Be it the significance of the Lai khuta of the Namghars or the Jikirs, this Axomia community has a different perspective all together on a zillion things which makes Axom even more interesting. Yes, I am talking about the Assamese Muslim community which is unique in its own little way and has been an integral part of Assam since time immemorial. So, today, let’s explore one of the important aspects of the Assamese Muslim community, the Biya or Marriage, which is strikingly different and yet the same as any other Axomia Marriage. Check it out how.

1.JUROON, the Engagement Day.

Unlike the other communities of Axom, the Assamese Muslim community celebrates the Engagement ceremony a few months before the marriage wherein the bride finds a perfect reason to flaunt in front of her in-laws. The Ring from the hobo logiya Hahu is a token of morom and also, the hahu finds a great opportunity to remark, “Apunar suali ajir pora mur”. And then the count down begins.


2.Maah Halodhi and Murot tel diya have been in vogue since generations.

Just before the day of Nikaah, the Maah Halodhi niyom along with murot tel diya is celebrated in full swing. What makes this ritual cutely different are the supotis which include demanding money from the relatives by singing Axomia biya naams. No relative of the Dora/Koina ghor can escape this fatal attack. This is the day when the youngsters make money while the others end up paying.


3.Bihu on the Play list is always a hit in any Axomia Muslim Marriage.

Along with the customs and rituals on the day before marriage, there comes the most fun and entertaining part of any marriage. This happens when khura-khuri, mama-mami, borta-borma, maa-deita, and of course, the siblings and cousins; all tap their feet together to the latest Bihu songs. Stopping oneself from dancing to these irresistible Bihu songs is just not possible.


4.Koinar and Dorar Xaajpar

While the Assamese Dora, like any other groom wears a kurta or a sherwani, the Axomia koina is seen wearing the traditional Mekhela Sador. Wearing the same along with matching jewellery has been a custom and this makes the Axomia Muslim Marriage somewhat different from the rest of the Muslim Marriages.


5.Forget "Qabool hain" and get used to "Moi Kubool korisu".

What makes an Axomia Muslim Biya interesting is the Kubool Korisu session. The whole nikaah ritual is solely being drafted and then read out in the Axomia language itself. While the rest of India asks ‘Qabool hain?’, the Junab in the Assamese community asks both the Dora and Koina individually, “Tumi ae Nikaah kubool korisa ne?” and it's only when both the Dora and Koina in that usual Axomia accent says, ‘Kubool korisu’, the marriage culminates. All these rituals are Islamic, yet have a deep Axomia touch in them.


6.Perfect opportunity to loot, perfect way to earn.

Like any other marriage, Axomia Muslim Marriages are the perfect opportunities for the youngsters of both the Dora and koina’s family to loot their elders. Starting from maah halodhi, murot tel diya, Dorar cake kota to daang/baah dhora, the youngsters of the family make sure they make good money. The chief target is always the Dora though. Taking away the koina is never easy for them.

 


7.Tamuli, the Axomia Muslim Dora-dhora is impossible to ignore.

The purpose of a Tamuli in an Axomia Muslim marriage is the same as that of a Dora dhora; there is only a change in the name. Until Nikaah, Tamuli remains the second most important person in the marriage right after the Dora, but much to his dismay, the Tamuli becomes very mamuli once the koina takes her place next to the Dora. But, nonetheless, the Tamuli comforts himself by saying , 'Eku nai. Etia tu mur'e paal poribo'.


8.The significance of Tamul Paan notches further in an Axomia Muslim Marriage.

No matter where you go, you will always find Tamul Paan in almost every bota in the Biya Ghor. Not only this, few rituals like Maan dhora, Biya mota etc are done keeping Tamul Paan as a sign of respect which also reflects the impact of Axomianess in the community.


9.Dora Adora, the most awaited welcome from the kids of the Koina’s family.

Believe me, getting to be in the first position in the long queue of kids waiting to welcome the Dora and Tamuli is an achievement in itself. After much quarrel and struggle, the kid who manages to get the coveted 1st position jumps up in joy as he knows the cardinal rule -  the sooner your number comes, the better gifts you gonna get.

Marriages are fun; customs and rituals, gathering of people, food, music, dance; everything together sets the right mood. But the Axomia Muslim marriages are quite different. While some things have that Axomia impact, others are simply Islamic. But to learn what an Axomia Muslim marriage is truly like, you got to witness one. There are lot many things which you will explore and then realize that, this happens only in our Axom. So, witness one and let us know your views.

 


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